There are so many views on marriage. Various views are affected by the environment around us. Some of the major factors that guide our views on marriage are religion, culture and traditions. Traditionally, marriage in most cultures of the world was very vital. It was fundamental and in many cultures, it was a rite of passage. There are many things that made marriage strong. Positive attitude towards it was a major contributor. Therefore, our great grandparents cherished the marriage institution. As time went on, views on marriage are starting to change. Our modern society is characterized by a tainted view of marriage. Divorce rates have never been this high and, more and more people are choosing to separate. Marriage has become so casual and, the value has greatly reduced. However, in the midst of this problem, there are a bunch of people who strongly value marriage and keep the custom and traditions. It is not hard to find such couples who still have positivism in this regard. Views on marriage are dynamic and keep on changing. Young people are some of the people who take hard grounds and stands on this issue.

They lack the role models to convince them that marriage can work. In reality, marriage does not always work. However, when two people are willing, it can be very blissful and meaningful. Therefore, after identifying the various views on marriage, you need to find out the steps you can take to ensure that you have the right view; one that will suit you. The following are some of the things that married people can do to ensure that they preserve the image of the institution. Empower yourself with information that will help you enhance your union. The willingness to work things out in a marriage is very positive. People will pick it up and they will have a change of view. There are many resources you can read on the Internet to enable you achieve this.

Marriage tips and advice are very popular and it is time to take advantage of them. They are convenient and easy to follow. Remember, it is only those who are married that can set a pace that will be recognized. In countries where they closely follow roots and religion, divorce rate is not as high. Their willingness to keep all they have learnt from their forefathers has helped a lot. Marriage to them is a vibrant haven where man singles would like to be. You can learn a lot from such people. In marriage, the rules do not change. It is all about love and patience. Many marriages that are being joined today no longer have the love necessary to sustain the marriage. The purpose for marriage is companionship and friendship. As you look for someone to marry or to get married to, it is vital that you consider exactly what you want in the relationship. If you find that you are ready for marriage, go ahead and make that commitment. With the right information, you will be in a position to reclaim the lost reputation of marriage.



By: Francis Githinji

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5 Things to Do Before You Even Think about Divorce

Summary — There are a number of things you should do before you take any action on your divorce. These 5 things are critical if you blow it on one of these you may have really made a huge mistake.

There are many steps to take to protect yourself in a divorce. This article will get you started. Your best bet is to talk to a lawyer before you do anything.

1. Talk to a Marriage Counselor or other professional who may be able to help you save your marriage.

Even if you don’t think there’s hope for the marriage, “divorce counseling” can help you discover what went wrong, how to cope, and how to pick up the pieces and go on. Don’t wait for your spouse to participate. If you don’t know how to find a qualified counselor, our firm will be glad to recommend one or you can check out the directory of professionals at stayhappilymarried.com. Your employment, social or religious contacts might also provide leads.

2. Talk to an attorney before you do anything.

Even if you don’t end up hiring an attorney to handle your separation or divorce, you would be well advised to get as much information as you can before you even discuss divorce with your spouse. There’s a lot to know about divorce in North Carolina . . . our laws are complex and even the simplest situation can be very confusing to families already in distress. Actions you take now may very well affect the outcome of your divorce (see #3) and you need to understand your options ahead of time . . . not some time down the road when it may be too late to alter the outcome. Click here to find attorneys who are well versed in the intricacies of North Carolina divorce law.

3. Do not move out of the marital home without talking to an attorney first.

Leaving the house without a good reason may cause you to pay alimony or may result in your inability to collect alimony. If you leave the house, you may also be unable to return until after a court divides the property. This process might take more than a year. The best advice is to stay in the house until after you talk with an attorney unless your spouse is violent. If your spouse is violent, you must take all steps necessary to protect yourself and your children.

4. If you have been involved in any extramarital affairs, talk to a lawyer before you discuss this with your spouse or anyone else.

In this case, honesty may not be the best policy. In addition to the fact that adultery is illegal in some states, admission of an affair can have other dire consequences. If your spouse is a candidate for alimony, any illicit sexual behavior on your part (during the marriage . . . which includes the time you are separated) could end up costing you thousands in additional alimony payments.

5. Take concrete steps to safeguard your assets before you and your spouse begin discussing divorce.

One of these steps is to take possession of certain assets during separation, especially those assets you wish to be using, such as furniture and vehicles, and those assets that might be liquidated by your spouse, including precious gems and stones, other collectibles, cash, and bearer bonds.

Another self-protective step is to file what is known as a Lis Pendens in the Deeds Office of any county where you and/or your spouse own real property. The lis pendens puts third parties on notice of your claim to have an interest in the real estate against which the lis pendens is docketed. The lis pendens is basically a notice of pending litigation that may affect real property. A properly recorded and served lis pendens clouds the title to the property, preventing an effective sale of the property behind your back. The rules regarding a lis pendens contain very specific requirements, all of which are spelled out in section 1-116 and the following sections of the North Carolina General Statutes.

A third possible step to protect the assets of your marriage is to get an injunction restraining your spouse from transferring or otherwise disposing of any property covered by the restraining order. Your attorney can also use an injunction to get your separate property returned to you, where your separate property is in the possession of your spouse and the spouse refuses to give it to you. The equitable distribution statute also provides a means for you to obtain an interim distribution of marital property, pending a final resolution of the property matter. Such an interim allocation could, for instance, give you much needed funds on which to live.

Other protective measures you might consider in your divorce planning include: (1) protecting your own credit rating by freezing or closing joint cards and by blocking your spouse’s access to other joint credit such as a home equity loan; (2) closing joint bank accounts and opening accounts in your own, individual name; (3) changing the name of the responsible party on utility and other bills; and (4) spending where possible your spouse’s separate property first, marital property next, and your own separate property last.

While this list will help you get started on the right track, it is by no means a complete list of all the things you need to do and know if you are considering a divorce. For more information about the rights and duties of separating and divorcing husbands and wives visit one of our Raleigh divorce lawyers. You’ll find a complete law library, downloadable divorce forms, a legal fee calculator, a child support calculator, lists of professionals who can help you and stories from people just like you who have survived divorce.



By: Lee Rosen

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By: Andy West

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This past year my wife and I celebrated our 25th anniversary. It is the second marriage for both of us and the relationship has only grown stronger over the years, teaching me more about love and trust and dependence then I ever imagined. Reaching this special “silver moment” spurred me to look around and think about the number of friends we have who also have great second marriages and led me to question the alleged statistic that 60+% of second marriages end in divorce. I also thought about how many friends we have who are still in their original marriages and appear to be very happy. Thus, I decided it was time to do some research on divorce rates.

In the process of preparing for this article, I learned what I had long suspected. The commonly quoted numbers are overstated myths, the more accurate numbers reflect complex factors, and that our society really has two very separate divorce rates, a lower rate (by half) for college-educated women who marry after the age of 25 and a much higher rate for poor, primarily minority women who marry before the age of 25 and do not have a college degree (most of the research focused on women; the little I read about men suggested similar outcomes).

The Statistics:

A false conclusion in the 1970s that half of all first marriages ended in divorce was based on the simple but completely wrong analysis of the marriage and divorce rates per 1000 people in the U.S. A similar abuse of statistical analysis led to the conclusion that 60% of all second marriages ended in divorce. These errors have had a profound impact on attitudes about marriage in our society and it is a terrible injustice that there wasn’t more of an effort to get accurate data (essentially only obtainable by following a significant number of couples over time and measure the outcomes) or that newer, more accurate and optimistic data isn’t being heavily reported in the media.

It is now clear that the divorce rate in first marriages probably peaked at about 40% for first marriages around 1980 and has been declining since to about 30% in the early 2000s. This is a dramatic difference. Rather than view marriage as a 50-50 shot in the dark it can be viewed as a having 70% likelihood of succeeding. But even to use that kind of generalization, i.e., one simple statistic for all marriages, grossly distorts what is actually going on.

The key is that the research shows that starting in the 1980s education, specifically a college degree for women, began to create a substantial divergence in marital outcomes, with the divorce rate for college-educated women dropping to about 20%, half the rate for non-college-educated women. Even this is more complex, since the non-college educated women marry younger and are poorer than their college grad peers. These two factors, age at marriage and income level, have strong relationships to divorce rates; the older the partners and the higher the income, the more likely the couple stays married. Obviously, getting a college degree is reflected in both these factors.

Thus, we reach an even more dramatic conclusion: That for college educated women who marry after the age of 25 and have established an independent source of income, the divorce rate is only 20%!

Of course, this has its flip side, that the women who marry younger and divorce more frequently are predominately Black and Hispanic women from poorer environments. The highest divorce rate, exceeding 50%, is for Black women in high poverty areas. These women clearly face extraordinary challenges and society would do well to find ways to reduce not just teen pregnancies but early marriages among the poor and develop programs that train and educate the poor, which will not only delay marriage but provide the educational and financial foundation that is required to increase the probability of a marriage being successful. Early marriage, early pregnancy, early divorce is a cycle of broken families that contributes significantly to maintaining poverty. The cost to our society is enormous.

Here is some additional data about divorce in first marriages before moving on to the limited data available about second marriages. Divorce rates are cumulative statistics, i.e., they don’t occur at a single moment in time but add up over the years of marriage and do so at different rates. After reviewing numerous sources, it appears that about 10% of all marriages end in divorce during the first five years and another 10% by the tenth year. Thus, half of all divorces are within the first ten years. (Keep in mind this is mixing the disparate college-non-college group rates.) The 30% divorce rate is not reached until the 18th year of marriage and the 40% rate is not reached until the 50th year of marriage! Thus, not only is the rate of divorce much lower than previously thought but at least half of all divorces occur within the first ten years and then the rate of divorce slows dramatically. Since the divorce rate for women married by 18 is 48% in the first ten years and that group, once again, is primarily poor, minority women, the rate for educated couples is much less during those first ten years.

No wonder the divorce rate in Massachusetts is the lowest in the country. We have the highest percentage of college graduates. That explains why I have so many first marriage friends!

Finding meaningful data about the divorce rates for second marriages was difficult. But knowing that the rate for first marriages has been grossly overstated and poorly understood for decades suggested a likely similar outcome for the data on second marriages. One report indicated that the divorce rate for remarried, white women is 15% after three years and 25% after five years. This ongoing study indicated a definite slowing of the rate over time but did not have enough years measured to draw more long-term conclusions. However, it did indicate that the same factors with first divorces were at play here. Age, education, and income levels were also highly correlated with the outcomes of second marriages. For example, women who remarried before the age of 25 had a very high divorce rate of 47%, while women who remarried over the age of 25 only had a divorce rate of 34%. The latter is actually about the same for first marriages and likely also would prove to be an average of different rates based socioeconomic factors. Thus, my take on this limited amount of data is that divorce rates for second marriages may not be very different than those for first marriages. So my small sample of friends, who remarried older, had college degrees, and joint incomes, is probably not a distorted view of the success rate of second marriages.

Cohabitation:

In the course of gathering information about divorce rates, I came across a few articles describing the growing frequency of couples choosing cohabitation over marriage. I don’t have any figures that I consider accurate enough to report on the percentage of cohabitating couples but a July 24, 2007 Boston Globe article on cohabitating parents sheds some light and raises some serious concerns about this trend.

I must admit a bias here. From my professional experience, I believe cohabitating couples are afraid of the commitment that marriage requires. Certainly a piece of this is what I stated at the beginning of this article, that the myth of the divorce rate has placed a dark cloud over the institution of marriage. The reason for my concern is the following data reported in the Globe article. There is a marked increase in births to cohabitating couples, up from 29% in the early 1980s to 53% in the late 1990s. When you compare what has happened to those relationships when the child is two years old, 30% of the cohabitating couples are no longer together while only 6% of the married couples are divorced. This is another serious societal problem as it contributes to the U.S. having the lowest rate of all Western countries, 63%, of children being raised by both biological parents.

In addition, the general data suggests that cohabitating couples break up at twice the rate of married couples. Of course, this kind of simple statistic hides many complex factors with regard to who actually constitutes the population of cohabitating couples and the likelihood that many choose to live together with no real intention of permanence. However, my main point here is the concern that many couples may be choosing cohabitation over marriage because they actually believe that the institution of marriage is unhealthy and too risky, a conclusion that my review of divorce rates strongly disputes.

Conclusion:

The historical belief that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and that over 60% of all second marriages end in divorce appears to be grossly overstated myths. Not only is the general divorce rate most likely to have never exceeded 40% but the current rate is probably closer to 30%. A closer look at even these lower rates indicate that there are really two separate groups with very different rates: a woman who is over 25, has a college degree, and an independent income have only a 20% probability of her marriage ending in divorce; a woman who marries younger than 25, without a college degree and lacking an independent income has a 40% probability of her marriage ending in divorce.

Thus, factors of age, education, and income appear to play a significant role in influencing the outcome of marriages and that for the older, more educated woman, getting married is not a crap shoot but, in fact, it is highly likely to produce a stable, lifelong relationship.



By: Kalman Heller

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Marriage is not a hopeless matter if it is in trouble, you can still turn things into a happy and blissful foundation. But, there are a lot of things that necessitates coming into play if you really wish to be married in the first place. In truth, marriage is a very serious matter and individuals who are committed enough to go into this new stage in their relationship.

But lately, divorce has been shooting up in numbers and it proves that somehow couples are no longer interested and willing to save their marriages. You should not give up because there are so many ways to save your marriage.

Perhaps you may think that it is totally impossible to save your marriage since your situation seems totally hopeless. Perhaps you partner does not seem to be bothered to do anything. So, it seems like you are the only one trying. However, even if you are the only one trying, there is still a chance for you to save your marriage.

Divorce or separation or even annulment causes a lot of money, with financial problems shooting up lately, you would not want to sulk much more in that area. Imagine, spending thousands of dollars for separation when you can spend only a few in reliving and making up with your spouse.

Saving your marriage will put you closer unto your dream of having a blissful marriage. You will be able to save you and your spouse’s time doing something much more meaningful than be in divorce court. And also, put into consideration about your kids, innocent kids you will suffer the possible traumas that are caused by the divorce. And they will really have a tough rime gaining confidence and faith in life and marriage. Give yourself the chance to think about it.

On the contrary, there are still those who would probably disagree with my own perspective, by then again, this is my opinion. And also, I am not pushing you stay in your marriage if there is more than a few problems circulating amidst your wedded life, but then again, if you yourself believes that your marriage is important to you, and to everyone involve in your family, then why hesitate saving your marriage. Being in love is not enough in being a sturdy foundation of a marriage, you have to truly love everything involve in it. Even the shortcomings of your partner is normal, nobody’s is perfect after all. You just need to confront the problem together and have faith in your marriage.



By: jason bb han

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Divorce means the legal dissolution of marriage. Divorce is usually one of the most traumatic experiences in a person’s life. Apart from being stressful and painful, a divorce proceeding may also prove to be an extremely costly affair. Very often, people going through a divorce do not have sufficient resources to hire an expensive lawyer. Many Divorce lawyers Chicago specialize in divorce and annulment. Money plays a vital role in the selection of a good divorce lawyer. For many people, an affordable divorce lawyer is one who charges the least amount to represent them in their divorce case.

Cheap divorce lawyers are expected to provide the best legal solution to their clients and advice them their rights. They should be backed by a network of professionals to assist in the preparation of case including psychologists, accountants, vocational evaluators, real estate experts, tax, and personal property appraisers. They should conscientiously and forcefully fight for their clients’ rights in court, if needed.

Browsing through the local newspapers or checking up the yellow pages is the first step towards finding a suitable divorce lawyer in Chicago. The Yellow Pages, and the Internet are great for finding cheap divorce lawyers, but a lot of people are happy relying on word of mouth. It sounds a little old

fashioned, but it still works, however dated.


It is compulsory that both the parties file for the Pro Se divorce, instead of

one opting for a lawyer and the other going in for the do it yourself divorce.

Also, those in military cannot file through this method while in service. A

lawyer is compulsory for such military divorce cases. History of physical or

mental abuse on either partner by the other, debt, bankruptcy etc., are other

conditions that must not be present while filing for a Pro se divorce case. It

is also a condition that both the parties are financially well off after the

divorce and would not need any kind of support from the other, such as alimony.


With the introduction of the Internet, information regarding Chicago accident lawyers is also available online. It is important to find out and make sure that the lawyer, one finally enlists the services of, has successfully represented many cases of divorces in Chicago.



By: Esmeralda Wells

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