Personal development is the most essential thing for developing your career, your finance, your emotions, your health, your spiritual beliefs and above all your relationships. It is not an easy task to develop your personality, but at a same time it is not an impossible task. One requires hard work and power to decide what kind of person you truly are from inside and one has to gets ones actions to comply with one’s true self. It requires the internal balance, control actions, your thought and skills. All these requirements are responsible for maintaining good relationship.

Good communication skills, good health, purity of mind, security and many more factors are there to gauge your personal development.

Effects of relationship on personal development

Relationship and personal-development goes hand to hand. There are positive as well of negative effects of relationship on personal-development.

There are different sort of relationships, which are classified as below-

1. Family relationships- Relationships exist with parents, siblings, children and spouse.

2. Friendship - Relation between friends.

3. Working relationship- Relationship between teacher and student, employer and employee, peers and colleagues.

4. Intimate personal relationships and sexual relations.

These relations play important part, or one can say these relations holds the key for individual’s social, mental and emotional development. Abuse, lack of support and neglect can produce adverse affect on your personal development, while love, care, help and support can make your personal developments in positive way.

Changes in the relationships also affect the personal developments. For instance, divorce, death of friend or your relative, unemployment, retirement, fighting with relatives and friends, injury/ accident or any mishap to relatives and friends etc are negative experiences that will hinder your personal development. On the other hand, birth of a sibling, marriage, living with partner, starting new business with friends, starting schools or college, getting job and many such positive events in relationship will enhance your personal developments.

Apart from these events and types of relationship, some other factors which contribute to personal-development. These factors are economic factors, physical factors and environment factors. These factors contains genetic inheritance, diet, amount and type of physical activity, income, material possession, religion, illness, disease, pollution, welfare services, housing condition and many more which contribute to affect your personal development.

The popularity of interaction on internet and making relationships has increased dramatically, through exchanging their views, verbal and culture, people establishing relationship on cyber station. Exchanging good thoughts, making good long term relationships, knowing different social culture and many more positive things online will enhance your personal-development. It is very important to share your views to maintain good relationship and according to some psychologists, it is an integral part of your personal-development, because after knowing the authenticity of your thoughts, one can develop accordingly.

Thus, it is very important to develop good relationship in order to enhance your personality and vice-versa.



By: Stephen Campbell

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Are you in a relationship that is stagnant - a relationship that is not going anywhere? Maybe the relationship is in a rut and you are feeling the pangs of disappointment.

Life is full of ups and downs and two people should grow together, through these experiences. Some don’t! Some grow further apart. If you find yourself in a relationship that is going nowhere, it’s time to evaluate. If you don’t make changes, nothing changes. Soon you will be thinking about leaving, instead of mending what is broken. Before thinking of leaving, evaluate the relationship and find ways to get out of the rut.

Many relationships are repairable, but too often people are hasty and want to escape instead of figuring out what the problems are and focusing on solutions.

A relationship is shared by two people who are individuals. A healthy and nurturing relationship is about growing together within that relationship. It isn’t about just breathing the same air, but a true partnership. The two people in a relationship also need to grow as individuals.

Start by asking yourself…what do you want from your relationship? What are the core issues that caused the relationship to be in a rut and stagnant? Are the issues your issues, your partner’s issues or issues related to the dynamics between you and your partner?

You have to identify the problem in order to find the solution. It’s possible your partner may not be willing to work on solutions. That is a problem in itself. Your partner may not even feel there is a problem and is comfortable with things the way they are. The problems may lie within you and not the relationship itself.

Often people feel disappointed when their partner isn’t sharing the same interests with them anymore. They once used to go out and do things all the time. In my opinion, the feelings and issues go deeper. I don’t believe it’s about activities, but resentment, repressed emotions, feeling taken for granted and a breakdown in communication. The issues start slowly. Your partner may be tired one day and not up to going out with you. You take it personally. You may find a way to get back at them, totally misinterpreting why they didn’t go out with you. One simple thing can lead to a snowball effect until you and your partner are in a vicious cycle of resentment and discord.

You ignore the little issues because they don’t seem important enough to address because they are infrequent. After a while, they accumulate until you see a much bigger picture. The gap between you grows wider and wider - until you are in a stagnant and disappointing relationship rut. The communication becomes almost nonexistent.

How do you get out of a relationship rut?

When you feel unhappy in any circumstance, the first place to look is inward and then outward. Dig deep to find out if your unhappiness lies within yourself or if it truly is about the dynamics in your relationship. It’s possible your expectations of your partner may be too high. Look at your behavior in the relationship. Are you constantly complaining or nagging? Do you fail to communicate effectively? Does any part of your behavior push your partner away? Or…does your behavior suggest that which should draw a partner closer, but it isn’t working?

If you are happy in general and feel you are growing as an individual and your expectations of your partner are reasonable, then it’s time to look directly at the relationship.

Keep in mind…a relationship doesn’t grow on it’s own. If you feel your relationship is stagnant and in a rut, it’s up to you to speak out and let your partner know how you feel. Don’t attack. Speak calmly about what issues are bothering you. There may be simple issues that just bug you or issues much more severe. Whatever the issues are, they are making you feel you’re in a rut and need to be dealt with.

Be sure to let your partner know how much they mean to you. Be direct about what’s bothering you. If you feel taken for granted, say so and give details about what has made you feel that way. Again, without attacking. Remember…you’re trying to mend the relationship, not make it worse. Your partner may not even realize what they have done. Your partner may have issues of their own that don’t even have to do with your or your relationship. Offer to listen to what they have been experiencing and feeling.

If you feel you aren’t being given enough attention, let your partner know what you need. If your partner has offended or belittled you, let that be known and explain how their words make you feel. Once you explain, they should be willing to clean up their act and work toward the betterment of the relationship. If not, you may have your answer to where this relationship is going.

If you want to do more things together, come up with ideas and present them to your partner. Also, ask what they would like to do. Delve into your common interests and see how you can work them out to suit both of you. There are many activities and hobbies a couple can share and help their relationship thrive.

In order for a relationship to thrive you have to nurture it. The relationship, nor your partner can be taken for granted. Each has to behave in a way that draws you closer to the other. It isn’t about who is right, but about what it takes between the two of you to make the relationship right.

Recap:

* define what the issues are

* look inward to understand your own issues

* be honest and open with your partner about what is bothering you

* don’t attack the one you love. Be mindful with your words.

* be willing to do your part and mend what is broken

* behave in a way that draws your partner closer

* respect your partner’s feelings as well as your own

* don’t take each other for granted

* be careful not to allow the relationship to continuously get in a rut

One of the best ways of getting back what you need is setting an example for your partner, by your own behavior, toward them. Treat them with the kindness, respect, love, support, understanding and encouragement that you wish to be treated.



By: Katlyn

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Have you ever had the experience of passionately presenting your ideas, feelings, or plans to another person when you suddenly became aware that their jaw had slackened and their eyes had glazed over? If so, you can be sure they took a little detour with their thoughts.

 

Because the brain can think or process four to six times as many words a minute as you can speak, that leaves a great deal of space for other activity within the mind of the person receiving your passionate presentation. While they may have the best intentions of giving you their full attention, the fact is they may be completing their grocery list or planning their next family outing while simultaneously picking up the gist of what you are saying.

 

Of course the truth of the matter is that we have all been on both sides of the equation. You may have found yourself tuning out in just the same way despite thinking you were fully engaged with what your boss or co-worker was saying.

 

It is human nature to want to talk more than listen, so if we are not careful, we can miss out on one of the most rewarding skills available to us, the art of creative listening. Once you master this skill you will be amazed at the incredible difference it will make in your business and personal life.

 

In fact, if you find you are not making good progress in your career, or you are experiencing increasing frustration in relationship after relationship, chances are you may need to improve your listening skills. Everyone wants to be truly heard, so only when you are able to listen with a trained and empathetic ear can you fully identify what is important to your client, friend, or spouse and respond accordingly.

 

Doesn’t that take a lot of time? I’m so busy!

 

It takes a great deal more time to miss the mark in your sales presentation because you didn’t slow down and really listen to the needs of your client or to try and put back the pieces of a personal relationship after a major misunderstanding than it does to listen carefully in the first place.

 

Showing willingness and interest in what someone else has to say not only benefits them, it benefits you. After all, when we stop talking because we think we know it all, we might learn something quite valuable for our own life.

 

When you are willing to give someone your complete attention, you also open the door to repeat contact with that person, which, in the business world, can bring you tremendous advantage. 

 

I really try to be attentive, but my mind still takes those detours!

 

Let’s start with a couple of very effective techniques that can help interrupt those thought detours your mind wants to take when someone else is speaking.

 

1.  Organize: As you listen to what the person is saying, pay attention to the pattern and progression of the person’s logic. Catalog in your mind the main ideas and key words that stand out. When the speaker is finished, summarize in a short way what you heard.

 

For example, if your boss has just communicated some ideas for a meeting the following week, you might say, “What I understood you to say is that you would like for me to have the reports on the current project available on Wednesday during the meeting with our new client rather than waiting until the normal Friday noon deadline. Is that correct?”

 

2. Analyze: Use your analytical skills to hear the ideas presented and then compare them with information you already have. Decide what items are relevant to the questions or concerns at hand, and look for logical cause and effect relationships. In other words, determine how the information being presented affects your personal or business goals and any relationships involved.

 

When you employ both of these techniques you decrease your tendency to be distracted and minimize your preoccupation with other matters. You will be less likely to miss important points the speaker is conveying and cut down on the boredom of an inactive mind that wants to wander off to other concerns.

 

All successful people are good listeners.

 

One of the major characteristics of all successful people is their ability to employ creative listening. The ultimate benefits far outweigh any learning curve that you might experience. Once you master the creative listening skills required, they will become second nature to you.

 

Someone once said that the human body was made with two ears and one mouth for a very good reason; we need to listen twice as often as we talk. Remember, if you aren’t always talking, there’s just no telling what you might hear!



By: Paul J. Meyer

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Over the past several years the use of web -based collaboration tools, such as web conferencing services and extranets, has grown dramatically in support of the increasing number of work groups with geographically dispersed members.

These tools have allowed organizations to tap the resources of employees, consultants and vendors in real-time, regardless of their location. Additionally, they have dramatically decreased the cost of serving clients and made more accessible a larger universe of prospective customers.

But at what cost? The danger is that reliance on these tools may reduce the power of personal contact. As the use of online collaboration to support relationships continues to grow, it is critical that organizations integrate a personal touch.

One strategy is to re-invest the savings realized through the use of technology to support travel expenses for occasional personal meetings. This provides the best of both worlds: the ability to move projects forward more rapidly using technology, while exploiting the power of personal presence when required.

The net effect is that the cost to serve work groups and customers remains the same. But the benefit is that the proper mix can propel organizations to maximum efficiency and profitability.

Simply pocketing the savings realized through the use technology is a false profit. Putting a face on team participation and customer relationships is a critical investment in enhancing effective collaboration and maintaining stronger relationships.



By: Malcolm Brown

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