Baz asked:


If mine were revealed, it would ruin 90% of my personal relationships and my good friend’s career :\

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A controlling relationship can have a huge impact on your life. It can limit you in so many ways and you end up feeling stressed, unhappy, and depressed.

It is important to emphasize this type of relationship comes into the category of an abusive relationship. This needs to be stated as there are many people who would not realize this.

When you know this, it is vital to examine the primary components of an abusive relationship and see how this relates to a controlling relationship.

Firstly, it means the controlling behavior is a way of dominating and holding power over the other person in the relationship.

It is usually the man who acts in such a way as this way of being tends to flow on from a belief that men are in charge in relationships and leads to a controlling relationship.

Taking on the aspect of being in charge follows from the commonly held belief, that men have a superior status or position and is seen as a way of supporting a controlling relationship.

Many men take on these beliefs because, not surprisingly, we are instructed to think this way, and encouraged to develop personalities where we dominate, leading to controlling in relationships.

It is even suggested this dominating and controlling behavior, that a lot of men display in relationships, is explained in such ways that it is due to their disposition, character, personality, makeup etc.

The only conclusion you could draw from such explanations about a controlling person in a relationship, is, that this is to be expected, and has to be accepted, and allowances need to be made.

There you are!! If you are experiencing signs of a controlling relationship, I’m sure that makes you feel a whole lot better and you now know how you can lead your life!!

Only kidding!! However, one does hear such things as women have to recognize how different men are from them, and the way to deal with some issues in relationships, is to make allowances for the controlling in relationships.

Before proceeding I need to say that these days we often hear such things as women in relationships can be as controlling and dominating as men in relationships.

My response to that is - poppycock! That is nonsense! I will acknowledge there are exceptions, but there is no comparison.

Throughout the world every day, women are killed, ***** and live in fear. The culprits are the men who are their husbands/partners/boyfriends, who have been dominating and controlling them in their relationships.

Statistics tell us that 1 in 3 women throughout the world is subjected to abuse in their relationship. This is a huge problem and very little is being done about it.

I believe if we can find solutions to this dominating and controlling behavior in relationships, we can change the world and I want to be part of that process.

In fact, I personally think there is a solution to a controlling relationship. The issue is, for this to happen, men have to be open to the process, a lot of men are not.

Unfortunately, as it stands, with this dominating and controlling behavior in relationships that is widespread throughout the world, it is a lose/lose situation for everyone involved.

The solution that is available is a win/win for everyone. One of the things that gets in the way is the view that is very common and that is everything is a win/lose.

That is if you’re not winning you’re losing.In other words if men are caught up in dominating and controlling in relationships, they can think that if they are not doing that, then they are going to be dominated and controlled.

It is like everything is a competition, and there are only winners and losers.Are you ready for the solution - drum roll please! The thing about this is that it can seem anticlimactic, as it is not such a big deal, but the consequences are gigantic.

The solution to this whole thing about dominating, controlling and holding power over in relationships, is to accept that as men and women we are of equal status!

There you have it! Doesn’t seem such a big deal does it? Seems so simple. Yet I’m sure when this is in place throughout the world the changes will be phenomenal and there will no longer be any need for dominating and controlling in relationships.



By: Leo L Ryan

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Personal development is the most essential thing for developing your career, your finance, your emotions, your health, your spiritual beliefs and above all your relationships. It is not an easy task to develop your personality, but at a same time it is not an impossible task. One requires hard work and power to decide what kind of person you truly are from inside and one has to gets ones actions to comply with one’s true self. It requires the internal balance, control actions, your thought and skills. All these requirements are responsible for maintaining good relationship.

Good communication skills, good health, purity of mind, security and many more factors are there to gauge your personal development.

Effects of relationship on personal development

Relationship and personal-development goes hand to hand. There are positive as well of negative effects of relationship on personal-development.

There are different sort of relationships, which are classified as below-

1. Family relationships- Relationships exist with parents, siblings, children and spouse.

2. Friendship - Relation between friends.

3. Working relationship- Relationship between teacher and student, employer and employee, peers and colleagues.

4. Intimate personal relationships and sexual relations.

These relations play important part, or one can say these relations holds the key for individual’s social, mental and emotional development. Abuse, lack of support and neglect can produce adverse affect on your personal development, while love, care, help and support can make your personal developments in positive way.

Changes in the relationships also affect the personal developments. For instance, divorce, death of friend or your relative, unemployment, retirement, fighting with relatives and friends, injury/ accident or any mishap to relatives and friends etc are negative experiences that will hinder your personal development. On the other hand, birth of a sibling, marriage, living with partner, starting new business with friends, starting schools or college, getting job and many such positive events in relationship will enhance your personal developments.

Apart from these events and types of relationship, some other factors which contribute to personal-development. These factors are economic factors, physical factors and environment factors. These factors contains genetic inheritance, diet, amount and type of physical activity, income, material possession, religion, illness, disease, pollution, welfare services, housing condition and many more which contribute to affect your personal development.

The popularity of interaction on internet and making relationships has increased dramatically, through exchanging their views, verbal and culture, people establishing relationship on cyber station. Exchanging good thoughts, making good long term relationships, knowing different social culture and many more positive things online will enhance your personal-development. It is very important to share your views to maintain good relationship and according to some psychologists, it is an integral part of your personal-development, because after knowing the authenticity of your thoughts, one can develop accordingly.

Thus, it is very important to develop good relationship in order to enhance your personality and vice-versa.



By: Stephen Campbell

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enigma21 asked:


By eating him in the Eucharist, where we partake of his body, blood, soul, and divinity? What could be better than having God inside of you and being sanctified by his grace? This is how Jesus told us to thave a relationship with us:
John 6: 54-56
Jesus said to them, “Amen, amen, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink his blood, you do not have life within you.
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Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise him on the last day.
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For my flesh is true food, and my blood is true drink.
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Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood remains in me and I in him.”
Luke 22:19
“Then he took the bread, said the blessing, broke it, and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body, which will be given for you; do this in memory of me.”
Anyone who says He is speaking symbolically, and not literally, simply is refusing to look at all of the facts. Fact #1: The Jews took him literally, verse 52. Fact #2: His disciples took him literally, verse 60. Fact #3, the Apostles took him literally, verses 67-69. If everyone who heard him speak at the time took Him literally, then my question is: Why does anyone today, 2000 years after the fact, take him symbolically?
i love jesus 247: I agree with you 100% You have to do it all.
Nobody: read it again, he gave the BLESSING, and said this IS my body. this IS my blod. What part of IS don’t you understand? How can it be figurative when Jesus said this IS MY BODY.
Sandy: pray to understand the scriptures. His OWN disciples said that this is a hard teaching. Read John 6. His Own disciples left him over this teaching in verse 66, Notice Jesus didn’t call them back.
Nikki Read John 6 and pray. In Luke 22:19 He said this IS MY BODY. Do it in REMEMBERANCE means to repeat it always. What part of THIS IS MY BODY don’t you understand? Don’t you believe Jesus?
David V: In verse 63, he was talking about a human being’s body. Not his own. “The Flesh is of no avail”, he means Our flesh. His flesh is the bread of life in verse 48. and true food in v. 55.
You’re right we are saved by Baptism. That comes first, then we partake of the Eucharist, once we are Christians.
Acts 2:42
“They devoted themselves to the teaching of the apostles and to the communal life, to the breaking of the bread and to the prayers” that’s called Eucharist.

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